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Sunday, May 26, 2013

girl on girl hate

happy sunday little fishiies!!! 

so I felt compelled to write this blog today because of a recent photo I posted on instagram (the above photo) I posted this on my personal instagram cause I felt pretty, I liked my dress, I've been happy with my body, and I wanted to share what I thought to be just a cute lil outfit before going out for the night.....

oh boy! was I sadly mistaken. 

it turned into a crusade. it really broke my heart. girls tearing other girls down in the comments of this one lil photo. skinny girls calling me fat and then calling the girls defending me "whales" "obese cunts" and "thunder thighs" and then the thicker girls retorting with remarks calling those girls names such as "anorexic" "sickly" "skeleton" "boy bodies" and "flat chests"

KEY WORD in all of this that BROKE MY HEART: GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

why are girls doing this to each other??? 

I know as a female who has dealt with body issues her whole life, I for one, was always most insecure because I was worried that BOYS wouldn't like me. that I'd grow up and MEN would be the ones chastising me if I wasn't thin enough, pretty enough, etc.

in my 7 years as an adult, I never ONCE had a guy comment on my weight. and I've gone out with ALOT of guys and ALOT of them were jerks but not one has ever said, "you're not thin enough, trish" or "you shouldn't wear dresses like that"........ALL THAT has come from females. girls who have to deal with the same insecurities society sets upon us.

now I'm a 25 year old woman who takes ALOT of pictures of herself, implying that I'm somewhat of a narcissist, implying I'm in love with myself and in love with how I look. so I find these comments aimed at me to be humorous many of the times. people calling me unattractive or disgusting is something I can laugh at now knowing that my looks is what gave me a career as a model

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but its truly heartwrenching when these derogatory names are being thrown at innocent young girls who just want to post their own personal "i feel pretty" pictures when they are going out, only to be torn down by insecure people.

if I had instagram or any social media when I was in high school, I don't think I would've made it through. between 13-19, those are years girls will always feel a little uncomfortable about their physical appearance in someway. things are changing, bodies are forming, girls are talking, and magazines are flaunting.

here's the thing...

PEOPLE ARE MEAN. but mean people don't get far in life. they are spending all their time and energy trying to bring you down so they feel better about themselves. the best revenge is not name calling back but by moving forward and reaching your goals. eventually they'll see their words cannot hurt you and will not stop you.

you'll be succeeding while they are just miserable.

 people hate on you because there is something in you that they wish they had. for me, I think people can't stand the fact that I'm so confident. that I literally just don't give a single fuck what anyone thinks about me....and those who can't find their own confidence, have to try and tear mine down (good luck trying to bring down the confidence of a narcissist) and I think we all should be a little narcissistic, as this world is cruel and people will try and tear you down for the rest of your life...."try" being the operative word.

maybe you're a super giving person, maybe you were blessed to have a wonderful family, maybe you are exceptionally attractive, maybe you were given opportunities others haven't....whatever the case is, you have something, they wish they did, and that is where the hate comes in.

my advice for the haters! you can change!!! you can change your situation!!!!

step 1) CUT THAT NEGATIVE SHIT OUT. calling someone ugly doesn't make you any prettier
step 2) instead of writing mean comments, write positive affirmations about yourself
step 3) don't criticize other people's goals, create your own
step 4) worrying about someone else's life, gives you no time to create a wonderful life yourself!


you can change the world by changing yourself. by making yourself a better person, you'll be making this whole world a better place.

and for all my curvy girls out there (I can only speak to you as I have never been anything other than curvy)

LOVE THAT BODY!!!!!!! if you walk around, owning every luscious lump and bodacious bumps, you'll attract all the right kind of attention! the word "fat" was created by people who wish they could have some extra junk in the trunk or a soft "s" shape when they walk.

us curvy girls can strut! us curvy girls provide warmth. and us curvy girls can cook. and us curvy girls really know how to fill out something as basic as a white wife beater tank ;) 

and again, this is no "anti skinny" its just what I know. my sister is naturally thin and she owns that. she owns the fact that she can sprint up our stairs and owns the fact that her thighs don't touch (I've always been envious of that) but I learned to love my sultry wiggle up the stairs and my thighs forming a cushioned heater for potential suitors hands ;) lol

physical beauty is awesome. we all want to feel attractive! however the most important thing I have always preached, is inner beauty. if you're not a good person, if you're soul is not happy, nobody is going to want to be around you! that's just the truth.

so focus on inner and once you KNOW all you have to offer to your friends, family, significant other, and the world, thats the secret to confidence. and confidence is the key to outer beauty! SHHHHH! don't tell anyone.



Monday, May 20, 2013

inner beauty vs outer beauty

lets just talk about beauty for a minute shall we?

what makes a person beautiful??? is there one person who could be defined as universally beautiful???

here's the thing, beauty TRULY is in the eye of the beholder because we all perceive this world so differently, therefor our perception of "beauty" is always going to be different.

believe it or not, not every male in the world finds Kate Upton attractive nor does every female in the world find Channing Tatum sexy. tis a true fact.

its not just physical either. while some guys prefer skinny girls, others may prefer someone thick, some even like obsese girls visually to look at. some are ass men while others need a good pair of big tits. guys prefer tomboys and others prefer girly girls. some like blondes, some like brunettes....slutty, conservative, smart, dumb, tan, black, asian, white, the list goes on and on and on in regards to a person's physical preference. same thing can go the other way in regards to what girls like about guys....older men, younger, rich, poor, hairy, waxed, metrosexual, butch, short, get the picture.......


inner beauty is ALWAYS going to trump outer beauty.

because you can't change a person's physical taste. if a guy likes leggy, tall, thin supermodels, I'm not his gal. never going to be his physical type, so why would I stress about it? 

HOWEVER, a pretty face will always be trumped by a pretty soul.

let me explain....

a few years ago, I met this guy who is known for dating high profile victorias secret/high fashion models....the twigs, flat chested, chiseled face, dark hair, dark eyes, exotic, brazilian, sultry.....pretty much the opposite of what I am. I didn't really even bother to try and attempt to change for him because I was simply not his type. I found him attractive but it just wasn't going to be. I was not his "type"

well low and behold a few months after meeting him, he broke up with his flavor of the month and he asked me out on a date. I was confused. he would come into the place I worked once a week and we would chat but he would never flirt or give signs of finding me attractive. so when he asked me out on a date, I accepted, but was so skeptical. was this a joke? why did he want to date 5'3 tacky ass, trailer park, trish?

here's what I came to find out after we dated for 3 months. I asked him, I said, why me? he looked a little offended by the question but I was young and so he explained as he was about 18 years my senior.

this is what he told me and I'll never forget.... "you're the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life" and at the age I was at the time, I laughed and rejected the compliment as a sort of "yeah right" knowing who he had dated before me. he continued (the gist of it) "looking at you, you are textbook attractive. you are blonde and vibrant and aesthetically pleasing but your soul radiates so bright, that a light shines on you, that attracts men"

the light around you, attracts people to you.

YOUR SOUL RADIATES!!!!!! remember this.

if you are a good person, have a positive mind frame, and genuinely just want to love and give love in this world, that will SHINE through you. that is what you are going to RADIATE and the good people will just be drawn to you.

same thing is said for the opposite. if you only think about the negative things, you bully people, want to see others fail, fill your heart with could be Miss America and no one is going to want to be around you for very long.

I've been on all ends of this. I've dated the most gorgeous looking men on the outside only to find their light they radiate is dark and shadows the light in my life. I've dated guys who my own friends snark at because they're not physically someones type but I am drawn to them because of their light. all of a sudden, what may be "unattractive" to some can be attractive to you because you see the light. seeing a person's light they give off is a gift....sometimes not everyone can see the person's soul because of the distractions of our physical appearance.

know this. we all want to look and feel attractive....and do it! do what makes YOU feel attractive. but if someone doesn't find you attractive or calls you names based on your appearance, that's not someone you want in your life anyway. and if it was someone you were hoping to intimately connect with, someone better will come along who can appreciate your inner beauty which will be reflected on your outer beauty.

I may not be "universally beautiful". I'm not everyones "type" physically, I'm an acquired taste for most. HOWEVER, I will say I have had no shortage of proposals, both marriage and indecent, in my life. while some girls may think I'll never get a guy (that was me as a teen), let your soul radiate and you will find that you can attract anyone you want and anyone who is worthy.

be a good person. 

people have called me "beautiful" on my social media, people who have never met me....and I don't think its the hair or the makeup....I truly believe its because of what I stand for and what I believe in....which is YOU ARE GOOD. THE WORLD IS GOOD. I just try to inspire that to everyone on a daily basis. I care about people, I care about this human race. and thats what people are attracted to, thats what people want to be around. 

look in that mirror. who do you see? do you like what you see? make yourself happy first. and people will be attracted to you once you truly can live your life and love yourself :)


Sunday, May 19, 2013

why you might want to start dating older men :)

tonight on twitter, I got inspired to blog because lets face it, theres just not enough characters in a tweet to say all I need to say on why I prefer the oler di--- I mean, men ;) 

young girls, let me break this down for you. when all the teenage lass' were crushing on the football player or the drummer of some punk band, I was always drawn to the older, intellectual teacher. the one who wore the glasses, had the power, told the class to settle down, give you encouragement, and have that little something extra....the huge bulging....biceps? 

what was it about the older man??? I didn't know until much later in life, and now at 25 years old, I have a little insight to share with my 18-24 year olds jonesing for the 40-50-60 somethings!!!

DISCLAIMER!!!!! please be 18 if you're gonna start getting it on with the hotttt and sexxxxy older dudes. yes, age ain't nothin but a number....unless you're under age, then its jailbait, just sayin.

18 is the LEGAL age of consent. once you're 18, you can bang a corpse for all anyone cares. 

actually scratch that, thats illegal too.

bang someone who is like 95 for all I care, as long as they have a pulse, you're good.

okay ladies, lets get to the meat and potatoes of this.....

OLDER MEN WILL MAKE YOU SCREAM!!!!!! sexually, NOBODY can come close to that of a man who has experienced life, love, success, women, hurt, loss, etc.......the man over 40 will give you the greatest sexual experience of your life. they will take control, they will listen to you and your body, and they will be harder than any little punk 20 year old can ever dream to be. the 40+ year old penis will make you sore for days and days to follow. that motherfucker be hardddddd, just so firm. like wtf?! its magical! ITS MAGICAL!!!!!! I personally prefer the 50 age range. always have. ever since I was 18, I date mostly 40-somethings but I always preferred banging the 50 somethings.....HOTTTTTT!!!! my last conquest was 82....he ended up being a creep but he could BRING IT. I've only orgasmed with a man over 40. anything less is for the birds.

OLDER MEN APPRECIATE YOU!!!!! young guys take your firm but soft skin for granted. they think of you as just a vagina, a dime a dozen. but the older man will cherish his young and beautiful little baby. haha. I swear when I'm like in my 40s, I'll be at the senior center, looking for those 95 year olds I was talking about earlier......I need to be the hotttt young naturally aging hasn't been easy for a gal like me....but luckily, my preference in men just keep getting older and older as I it all balances out. I have an infatuation with a 50 year old man at the moment of typing this....but this 65 year old is really starting to step up the I can see he appreciates me more. the 50 year old may be still eyeing the 18 year olds (I ain't hatin, I once was one of these desirable young barely legals) but the 65 year old knows he's got a good thing with this piece of ass ;)

ROLE PLAYIN WITH MY DADDY!!!!! don't judge. any younger girl dating and older man has DEFINITELY called him daddy. "daddys" don't refer to them being "sugar daddys" heck I've had daddys who were living off me (big mistake, yall should at least be equals or close to it) but the simple fact that they could in fact, logistically, statistically be your actual father.....makes the older man relationship all that much hotter. "yes daddy, I have been a bad girl, wanna spank me?"

OLDER MEN GOT IT TOGETHER!!!!! well for the most part. I've dated my fair share of older men who have no fucking clue whats going on in their world or the real world. BUT I would say 95% of older men I've dated, know what they want in life. sometimes they may just want a fling, but they'll be honest about it. they're not going to pretend they want something else when all they want is T&A and if they really like you, they're gonna tell you. no games with the older man. no guessing if they like you, will they call? some older men want the booty call and the booty call can be fun, so just know what YOU want, he'll tell you what HE wants and it avoids any bullshit drama that comes with dating these boys.

here's the thing, we all are attracted to different types of people. I'm not saying if you're 18, you need to start having sex with a 80 year old just because thats what I did. I just get asked ALL the time about what its like dating older guys, why I prefer dating older guys, what makes me excited about the older man.....sometimes you don't know why you like the things you do, you just do. 

this is the best way I can explain why my parts tingle when I watch movies like the bucket list, the crew, or grumpy old men.....I mean, don't be afraid to go after what you want. fuck society. its not about being golddiggers, I pay my own bills thank you very much, people in society just don't wanna accept that old dudes are fucking amazing in bed, so they just make up shit to talk trash. sorry 32 year old journalist, you don't know shit why I'm with someone my grandpas just keep talkin on the internet in yo mammas basement <3